1. The uneven standard for those joining versus those who have already joined.
When a person joins our church, we expect them to believe certain things. Obviously, we should welcome someone to attend our church regardless of their beliefs. We recognize that the best place one could be, should be where they are surrounded by followers of Christ who will love them and hopefully help them to see their need of Him.However, once someone decides to make the commitment to join our church, we require them to believe certain things. One cannot be both an atheist and a member of a Christian church. One can obviously be a former atheist, but a change of belief has to be present. The person is not expected to be perfect in their theology or practice, that is part of the sanctification process, but they should at least acknowledge their belief and trust in Christ as their Savior and Lord.
If someone walked the aisle to join the church and they were asked to share how they came to know Christ and their response was, "Well, I've read about Jesus and seems like a nice guy, but I don't believe He was God or that He can really do anything to help me today. I just want to be part of the club and make some friends." Would we allow that person to become a member? Surely, we would lovingly tell that person that we would love to be friends with them and they are more than welcome to continue to attend, but that joining a church involves more than simply being part of a club.
More accurately, what if a person came forward and said,"I sorta believe what you said about Jesus and all. That's nice. I want to go to heaven, but I don't really want to do anything. I mean, honestly, I really don't want to come to church but a couple times a year. I just want to have the assurance that my name is on the church roll and the membership list at heaven. Is that OK?" Again, hopefully, we would carefully and patiently work with this individual, but hopefully we would not allow them to join our church. They obviously do not understand what it means to commit to Christ and His local body.
With all that being said, why do we not hold our current members to the same standard? Should they not be held to an even higher standard than the ones we have for those who are just beginning their relationship with Christ and His church. I should be able to expect more from someone who has been saved 10 years than someone who has only known Christ 10 days. Yet so often in our churches, we hold new members to a much more rigorous standard than we do our older members.
Older members can never darken the doors of the church once after they graduate high school, go off live a completely immoral life, even deny the very existence of God and we still consider them a member in good standing - the same as the elderly saint who has been faithful for decades through numerous trials. We will automatically refuse membership to an unrepentant gay man, while we allow a man whose been married six times, cheated on every wife and is currently living with his girlfriend serve as a Sunday School teacher. Should that be the case?
It is not that the works or faithful attendance to church saves anyone. They do not. But often time those things reveal the true intentions of individuals. We have no idea what really has happened in the heart of an individual when they come forward and say they have accepted Christ. We should respond at that moment as if we have no doubts and rejoice with them. However, we should also, as Christ commanded us, examine their fruits to see if what they vocalized to us is truly evident in their life. Hopefully it is, but we should not be naive and believe that is always the case. Scripture warns about wolves within the church trying to harm the sheep. The church should care for the sheep, but call on the wolves to repent.
Practically, we make new members express their commitment to Christ, but we do not require the same from current members. This should not be the case. If someone, whether they are inquiring about becoming a first time member or if they have been a member for 50 years, cannot express vocally and with their actions their commitment to Christ and to His local body then they should not be a member.
2. Large numbers of unregenerate church members can corrupt the direction of the church.
Everyone has a story of an important vote taking place in the church and seeing tons of "members" crawl out of the wood works to vote a certain way. More often than not, they vote with a minority of active members and prevent progress which was proposed by those individuals who care about the church the most.
I recently heard of a church where a few members wanted to oust the pastor because he was stepping on their toes. They did not have enough votes, so they called in dozens of people who were on the roll, but who hadn't been to church in years. With the inactive members, the small minority of complaining members were able to vote out the pastor. Unfortunately, that is an all to common occurrence.
The church's future was dramatically changed because of members who did not care enough to come to services except to vote out a pastor. However because the church had not exercised church discipline, those members were able to redirect the future of those members who actually did care.
It is not that one member has more of a right to a vote than others, but it is that actual members have a right to determine the direction of the church. Those who have demonstrated their lack of concern for the church do not have the right to be a member. No one has a right to belong to a certain church. It is, in every sense of the word, a privilege.
Practically speaking, someone who has no idea what any of the passages the pastor preached from over the last year, has no right to determine if that pastor should remain pastor. Church discipline prevents those individuals from doing just that.
3. A lack of church discipline prevents a mixed, at best, picture of Christ to the community.
I grew up in a small town. All I really know is small town life. The most often repeated words in a small town are "Did you hear ..." as in "Did you hear about him cheating on his wife?" "Did you hear about her getting drunk last night?" Quite frequently those questions are followed up with "And he's a member of First Baptist Church!"
Whether we like it or not, the reputation of the church gets sullied based on the mistakes of the members. More importantly, the reputation of the church's Christ gets sullied based on the mistakes of the members.
Mistakes are part of the human existence, even large ones. Christ died for those past, present and future. They do not prevent us from loving and serving Him. However just as with our children, sometimes God needs to discipline us to let us know we are in the wrong. Often times we ignore that discipline and continue in our sin until it becomes part of our lifestyle. At that point, the church can and should step in to confront the individual.
This is not about a witch-hunt. This is not about naming everyone's sin at a business meeting. This is about a loving church family prayfully seeking to restore a fellow member or hoping to illustrate a pretending member's need for a Savior. Hopefully, the individual will respond to Christ and the need for church discipline will be avoided.
No one should take joy in exercising church discipline, but we should take joy in how it can be used to remind Christians of their first love and redeem lost people from the clutches of sin.
I have heard countless personal stories from individuals who were living in sin, have since corrected that lifestyle and expressed regret that no one took the time to lovingly call them out on their mistake.
The name and reputation of Christ and His bride and body are adversely affected by our unwillingness to confront the sin in our midst. Often times in the Old Testament, God would allow the entire kingdom of Israel to suffer defeat because of the hidden sin of one individual. Do we not worship the same God today? Would God not allow defeat and conflict in a church which refused to hold their members to His standard?
Obituaries very often include the church membership of the deceased individual. More times than I can count, I have read obituaries of individuals who were members of my church, but I had never seen them there. Unfortunately, I often knew the person lived a totally unregenerate lifestyle. It is not my place to judge their salvation or not - only God can and will do that. However as a member of the church it is our place to point out to individuals that their behavior is harming them, their church and their Savior and unless they agree to change actions will be taken to further encourage them to recognize their sinful lifestyle.
Practically speaking, when we read those obituaries of "members" of our church that have not been in 20 years, we could be reading the obituary of our own church. The more and more we allow sin to remain and grow in our church family, the more difficult it becomes for God to work in the lives of even those who are living for him. Satan should not have a foothold in their church, but we allow him there in the lives of individuals that care more for Friday night than Sunday morning.



